Each couple had previously celebrated their sacred love, most couples in “commitment ceremonies” like Ann and I did. Two couples married two in other states, Iowa and New York, that allowed GLBTQ weddings before Washington State did.
I loved Tyler’s and Keegan’s vows, which revealed the complexity of long term love and raising children together. Their vows were funny and sweet. Keegan, for example, promised to be willing to go out to eat, even when he’s already defrosted the chicken. This, I gather, is a tension they are working out at home.
As part of the ceremony, each couple told a bit of their story. Most of us had been in these relationships for more than a decade. Two couples met (though they didn't start dating then) in secondary school: Karen and Janet met in eighth grade and Jerry and John met in ninth.
Anastasia and Giselle, in Seattle on a visit from Trinidad, joined the celebration, too, and we were honored by their participation.
I also hope for some of the very important rights accorded married couples, rights of hospital visitations when one of us is sick and beneficiary rights to retirement income and social security when one of us passes.
Most importantly, I am thankful for Ann’s love in my life, for the great gift of living my life with her. As I said in my vows: “My deepest promise to you is that I will live my life in gratitude for this great gift….I will bring my best self to you and my world because with you I am my best self.”
I have protested against so many social injustices and have for so long, as a GLBTQ person, identified with those who are discriminated against. This wedding doesn't change that. Our society, after all, remains so unjust to GLBTQ people and others in so many ways.
We live the lives of our histories, African-American histories, native histories, histories of people who are GLBTQ and of people with disabilities. And so forth. So many histories in this power play.